I recently reconnected with an old friend on facebook. Actually, he was my first boyfriend, first love, first everything really. I haven't seen or talked to him since high school, so it was nice to see how he is doing now. From what I understand, he is recently divorced and it was apparently not a good marriage. I feel really bad for him. Even though he said the divorce wasn't that bad because they hadn't been happy for awhile, it had to have been really hard getting to the point of deciding divorce was the best option. Actually, I know it was hard because me and Carlos have been having a lot of issues lately, and the subject of splitting up has been coming up a lot lately. Nobody goes into marriage thinking they will split up later, especially when there are kids involved.
Yesterday, he posted a status update about how his ex-wife used the child support money to take a trip to the beach by herself. That is beyond fucked up. That money is for his kids, not for her. It always makes me so mad when a parent, and especially a mother, puts their wants ahead of the kids. Once you get a positive pregnancy test, your life stops being about you, and begins being about your child. I guess in her mind, alimony and child support are synonymous. He's not married to her anymore, it's no longer his responsibility to support her. His obligation is to his kids.
I feel really bad that he had to go thru a divorce, and continues to have drama. He was always a good guy, and really doesn't deserve the BS. From what I have seen on his page, he seems to be a really great dad. Someday, his kids are going to realize who the better parent is and will only want him.
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